Moments...

In life there are moments that we find ourselves looking at the present and wondering whatever di we do to deserve this! THIS!?

There would be many- nearly a hundred percent who would agree with that statement. They would, however, not be in agreement regarding its meaning. They woudl not agree with each other, either!

There would be those who would be grateful for great health and those who are battling disabling disease. There are those who could not ask for more and those who could not be able to comprehend why so little!There would be those who would be proud of their progeny and those who are ashamed... And there would be still others who are still seeking a child to hold and to love. They are the ones who would tell both of teh above that they should consider themselves fortunate to be blessed to be parents. Perspective defines our experience and emotion binds it to our body. The Soul can do better... but is living that experience and trying to understand what it knew but needed to live.

Plentiful abundance and abysmal scarcity are both perspectives we choose to view the world with. They define our world view and shape our life's emotions and experiences.

Why are we so focused on externals? Why are we not, somewhat, if not majorly, focused on our internal milieu? And why do we fail to see that till we shift our focus, our locus of control (LOC) inward, we will just keep seeking... never really finding.

LOC- the major point of control in our lives- after all what is it that we are all seeking? Whether we are running after money or our hunger for knowledge, whether we seek our children or our work- ultimate end point of any effort is bliss, happiness, contentment and satisfaction.

Yet in a perfect world there is scope for change for the better! It is already the best it can be! No scope for creativity, creation and improvement... we cannot really better the best, the perfect!

So... if you are unhappy, it is great place to be. If you are seeking... it is a wonderful search. That is where the road to success, to progress, to growth starts. That is the head of the path. Walking on it or sitting by the wayside and wallowing in self pity and pain is a stark choice- one that is up to us.

We often get so engrossed in our own pain that it becomes something we must cling to , something that makes us feel great and importantabout having been able to bear. We feel proud that we are able to stand despite the pain, that we are able to walk and talk and breathe despite it. In fact, bigger the pain... prouder and bigger we feel.

That is the simplest well to fall into. The easiest dungeon to wlak into. It is suicidal to keep THAT perspective.

We do need to, then, reexamine what we rae really committed to. Whether it is our pain or our fulfilment that is our drive. Andwhat we focus on becomes our life- its definition and its reality.

Fulfilment? Fulfilment is the art of a life well lived. It is the deep seated feeling of having done something meaningful- something that might survive beyond us, that might outlive us. Tony Robbins famously defines it by the acronym of art because it is different for everybody.

We would always need to remember that Success must precede the fulfilment, but need not ensure it. there are many who are wildly successful and yet, deeply unhappy and depressed even. The converse, however, is not an option at all! You can not find fulfilment without success. We all gain our sense of self worth in a moment of creation... in a moment of immortality in a mortal life.

That requires a constant shift in focus and a constant reminder of how great a life can be. We must create role models not only for our children but also for ourselves. Someone has famously said- if your mind can think it, your body can do it. And if you face challenge, your sense of self worth will be that much greater having achieved a worthy goal.

Live as if the only thing that matters is how you spend the next ten minutes or thirty or the next twenty four hours.

Teach as if your head is on fire- with passion and with expectation. If you expect the best, you generally get it!

Live. Learn. Love. Leave a legacy. That is the only worthy goal for a human life.

1 comment:

Nature Walker said...

Thanks Suporna!
I used to feel like it was enough to simply write... Now I realise it does feel good to be read, too! ;-)

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